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Bench at Schloss Glienicke, by Grace KerinaDear Sensitive Soul,

If you have your own business or have considered starting one (frankly, as a highly sensitive person, that’s a great way to go), you may have bumped into some challenges along the way about how to get the word out about the work you love.

Jenna Avery and I are in the process of creating a high-quality support network for sensitive professionals. We’d love to have your input via a short seven-question survey. As a thank-you, we’ll give you a free gift.

To start taking the survey, click on this link:

Begin Sensitive Professionals Survey [survey now closed]

Thank you!

With confidence in you,
Grace Kerina
Jenna Avery

Sensitive Professionals Network
www.sensitiveprofessionals.com
510-981-0697

Photo: Bench at Schoβ Gleinicke, by Grace Kerina

Relief with Teeth

Dozer TracksThere’s relief – the kind of palliative care that shifts us from an uncomfortable moment into a slightly more comfortable moment temporarily – and then there’s Relief with Teeth. Relief with Teeth bites the earth beneath your current stance and makes marks as it makes tracks. There’s no half way about it. You’d better brace yourself for a jolt as those powerful teeth dig in to accelerate.

Which option do you think will make your life much better much sooner – the Band-Aid or the bulldozer?

Palliative care is dusting the tabletop. Relief with Teeth is rearranging the furniture. Palliative care is managing cash flow with the calculator set on four decimal places. Relief with Teeth is doing whatever it takes to find the perfect customers and wow them with your natural gifts.

Relief with Teeth starts in the centre of your chest, where your heart is. The rumble of heavy machinery lives there. Dusting and pinching pennies to avoid the real issues means the mind is afraid. And it should be – real relief means real change. Relief that permanently changes your life involves the heart as much as the head. Your pulse shifts into a higher gear. Otherwise, you would have changed already, right?

You’ll be okay, though, because Relief with Teeth is both grounding and propelling. And the best part is that you already know exactly what to do. Really. Check in with your pulse. You’ll find answers there, along with a hardhat and the keys to the bulldozer.

Quit raking leaves. Grind some ground instead. Move the Earth.

Related reading: Pep Talk | Defend Your Territory, Pep Talk | Choose

Flickr photo: Dozer Tracks, by adamr.stone

Successfully Sensitive | Sarah and Suzi

Sarah and Suzi

How could I not be drawn to Sarah Seidelmann and Suzi Vandersteen? As designers, they guide clients to find the sweet spot where self-acceptance meets great design. As unabashed emissaries of friendship and play, they teach self-exploration and design recovery through entertainment. They laugh, they whoop it up, and they invite whole people to join the party – all our bits are not only welcome, but necessary.

Suzi and Sarah’s design business is Kitchee Gammi Design Company. Joy Junket is their amusement park of a website.

In what way are you most successfully sensitive?

I think what we do really well is that when we have the initial meeting with the client we carefully gather information regarding what’s important to them in terms of the space we’re designing. Then we interpret all the information and collaborate with them on the design. With each update and new idea presented we watch carefully for reactions and feedback so we know when to make changes in the plan and when to reassure the client.

What or who has inspired you to embrace your sensitivity?

Probably responding to and working with many of our clients who had worked with other artists and designers who didn’t listen carefully to their needs and concerns. We feel design is intensely personal and intimate, and we’re privileged to be asked to work with people in their homes. The fact that we’re both always working towards spiritual progress (not perfection) leads us to listen carefully to everyone we work with, from clients to sub-contractors. We then, of course, take those data points and feed them into the design filter of Kitchee Gammi Design Company, resulting in a design that reflects the collaboration.

What are your eternal fascinations?

Beauty, function, the infinite possibilities inherent in how different people live in their homes, nature, good flea markets (treasure hunting), other businesses that bring their own points of view and have fun doing it, fashion, travel to exotic locales (Istanbul, India, Japan …), the makings of a good party, new food finds – essentially all the creative arts and the infinite offerings of new creations that we see every day.

What quest currently captivates you?

Finding a balance between work, play, and family, as all the variables are constantly changing.

We realize that many people don’t need a COUCH, they need a COACH to help them realign with their heart’s desires, so we’ve added coaching services to our menu. Sarah is currently doing additional coaching training with Oprah’s Martha Beck and is freaked out by how limitless personal transformation is.

What is your favourite kind of help to give?

We love to encourage others to live beautifully on their own terms: Don’t do what we do. Do what you do! And we love to encourage fun and laughter all along the way.

Related Reading: Successfully Sensitive | Dolly Hopkins, Book | A Pattern Language

A Bespoke Life

(untitled), by bird_flew

What’s it like to wear a bespoke suit, a suit custom-made to fit me and only me? I want a life like that. I want a plan, a pattern, a path that takes into consideration all the weird, unruly, shocking, steadfast little and big things that combine to shape me. But how?

“The word bespoke itself is derived from the verb to bespeak, to ‘speak for something,’ in the specialized meaning ‘to give order for it to be made.’”
~ Wikipedia entry for Bespoke

What plan speaks for me? Cookie-cutter solutions need not apply. If I can’t make it fit me, if I can’t make it mine, all mine, then forget it. I’ve scoured office supply stores, art supply stores, read books and websites by goal gurus and earnest cheerleaders of every stripe and found only an elite few who make the cut, including these two…

For the past two weeks I’ve been pulling together a strategic planner for 2010, guided by what artist and business school graduate (a combination that thrills me) Lisa Sonora Beam does for herself every year. Although I’m still creating my plan, the power inherent in the thoroughly self-customized system has already taken me so far further along my way than I’d imagined possible that I’m almost scared to continue. The zoom is palpable. For more about this intensely customizable system, see Lisa Sonora Beam’s “Goal Setting for Creatives: My 2010 Strategic Planner.”

One of the zoomy surprises to burst forth from my 2010 Strategic Planner process is that a friend offered to sponsor my fees for an e-course that seems perfectly designed to help me further custom-make my life: Susannah Conway’s Unravelling: Ways of Seeing My Self, which combines photography, journaling, comrades, Susannah’s strong heart, and the promise of deep self-connection.

The primary goal of both systems is to put me in touch with myself in a way that encourages invention, supports forgiveness and acceptance, and fills the silence with my voice, even if I choose to be quiet. What could be more fittingly comfortable than that?

Related reading: Book | The Creative Entrepreneur, by Lisa Sonora Beam

Flickr photo: (untitled), by bird_flew

How to Keep a Friend

Old friends, by kevindooleyStart with the first step. Proceed.

  1. Make a new friend.
  2. Spend time together.
  3. Be your true self, especially when it’s difficult.
  4. Disagree.
  5. Let them go.
  6. Figure out how to soothe yourself.
  7. Welcome them back.
  8. Willingly fall further into friendship’s gooey centre.
  9. Copy what you envy.
  10. Forget who’s who.
  11. Draw a line.
  12. Notice recurring border skirmishes.
  13. Learn about yourself.
  14. Draw a different line, one that includes all of you.
  15. Do your best, even if it’s not enough.
  16. Take a break.
  17. Notice what changes.
  18. Ruthlessly work to take back any unkindness.
  19. Hold your friend’s hands until they’re warm again.
  20. Decide to love yourself best by forgiving, even if you’re not sure how.
  21. Remember all the good things. (There were lots.)
  22. Accrue private jokes.
  23. Count up the years.
  24. Catalogue the stories and talk about them in code.
  25. Accept the whole friend, including what bugs you about them.
  26. Realize that you wouldn’t be you without your friend.
  27. Praise the change you got from them.
  28. Praise the change you resisted.
  29. Get to know your friend’s friends.
  30. Make a new friend.

Related reading: Pep Talk | Flip, Book | How to Live with an Idiot

Flickr photo: Old friends, by kevindooley