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Fear and Change

“To end suffering, let go of what changes” ~ Gavin De Becker, The Gift of Fear “When you realize that change depends on relationships, then you can seek a ‘change agent’ much as you do any other important, emotionally charged relationship with a person or community. … [And] when you find the right relationship, anything […]

Living with Questions

“In a field I am the absence of field.” ~ Mark Strand, Keeping Things Whole, Reasons for Moving… A question is like an empty space. We ask. We wait. We wonder. We make room. We stop resisting. In the process, by creating a nothing with a curling, spiraling question mark at its heart, we fall […]

Quantum Physics and the Art of Manifestation

Perhaps, in part, because I have balanced use of the right and left sides of my brain (I am an artist with a science degree), I’m always on the lookout for places where science mingles interestingly with art, philosophy, and spirituality. Quantum mechanics and the art of manifestation is one such place, and the combination […]

Sounding Off

I’ve been known to take extra sets of earplugs to outdoor concerts and pass them out to the parents of children who are obviously cringing from the overwhelming noise. It’s tricky, finding the right balance of pointing out the child’s discomfort while not faulting parenting skills. My efforts in this regard are generally met with […]

Jenna Avery

“The only thing wrong with being sensitive is trying to pretend that you are not.” ~ Jenna Avery Jenna Avery is a “Life Coach for Sensitive Souls.” Once upon a time, when her life was not going well, she took her high sensitivity in hand and went on a journey of discovery. What she learned […]

Differentiation and Intimacy

Differentiation is the process of holding on to one’s self while connecting with others. As a path to true intimacy differentiation is hard to beat. Which is not to say that the path is all shining sun and roses, but committing to being true to one’s self, particularly when there’s pressure not to, brings deep […]

HSP Gatherings

One way to gain confidence and connect with people who are likely to understand you more readily than the general population is to attend a gathering of highly sensitive people (HSPs). The blog HSP Notes is written by a man name Peter. In his post “Connecting HSPs” (scroll down to read the post) he writes […]

The Power of Community

Learning from Queers and Geeks “A geek is…any dogged explorer or crazed inventor, anyone who fixates on a project and won’t let go, anyone who builds his own damn rocket! It’s a label to be proud of, in any star system.” ~ Editors, Wired Remember when “geek” wasn’t a label to be proud of? When […]

Time Management for Highly Sensitive People

Time management is only necessary when the things we want to accomplish threaten to take up more time than we easily have for them. Since I know that my high sensitivity steers me toward wanting to please others and I can usually see a lot of subtle ways to make things more complete or useful […]

The Power of Creativity

“If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” ~ Epictetus Life’s a lab. We experiment, starting with a question (curiosity). Creativity is about risking mistakes in search of satisfying answers. What we often mean when we say we’re not creative about something is that we’ve stopped trying. Even the most […]

Out-of-Context Quote Book

“It’s like being trapped in an elevator with my own music.” “He’s been a pawn in my little recovery game.” “Everything’s very in-between the trapezes right now.” “Is dog hair your sole medium?” Pluck them from the conversation that gives them contextual meaning and some phrases can go on to live long, meaningful lives on […]

The Power of Curiosity

“Fear paralyzes; curiosity empowers. Be more interested than afraid.” ~ Patricia Alexander Curiosity is like a flashlight beam. We aim it at what we want to see more clearly. Or, rather, curiosity aims us. When we’re curious, we’re the beam of light following the feeling of wonder to the next illuminated view. It’s not about […]

The Perpetual Support List

Putting a big toe into the lake, or even out of the tent door, is part of the art of adventure. It’s not all mountaintop views and standing ovations. Those are only the graduation ceremonies. The more ways we know to encourage ourselves, to believe we can stick a toe out, make a first move, […]

Cage or Gate?

What do you get when you cross high sensitivity with curiosity, creativity, and community? What do you get when the cage turns into a gate? You get the power to change the world. Rather than merely managing our overwhelm, we can strengthen our oddness, turning attention from getting by in a predominantly non-highly sensitive culture […]